Stand out among the crowd

Starting work in a new place? School perhaps?

With the new year comes new hope for you dating hopefuls :P

Now i have readers asking me the best way to impress and to stand out among all. Well let us not get too carried away for now. Let us consider who or how we notice when we are at a new place.

1) The obviously trying to get attention fellas. ( talking out loud, flashy clothes, boastful, too nice )

2) The obviously can't be bothered kinds. ( headphones on, arrives on time and leaves on time, answers queries with one liners )

3) The subtle and sincere kinds. ( this is the group we want to be in )

Ok, to be in this group, let us identify what trails do they have. Confidence? yes. Being themselves? yes. ( Unless being yourself means to be a s.o.b then you got serious issues to clear first pal ! :P ) Sincere in interactions? yes.


Confidence.
Nothing beats being confident. An air of mystery and attractiveness follows you when you are so. People will envy you, want to be near you and seek to interact with you! If you need help in this department, check out my previous articles. For her: I am not pretty. For him. Confidence is important.


Being yourself.
If you strive hard to be Mr Nice but yet spent your last 20 years making life miserable for folks, you are not going to cut it for long. Do some reflection and read up on books. Ask a few of your family members to give you a honest assessment. This is a valuable aspect and it is going to help you in your work, family life and of course love life. Smile and the whole world smiles along with you. Life is not about getting shortcuts and cheap thrills / successes at the expense of others.


Sincere.
This ties in with the point above and goes beyond that. When you are in a new place, introductions are bound to happen. Be sincere in your introductions and genuinely be interested in knowing the other person. People like to talk about themselves and to find someone who is really interested in them, that is a great encounter. When you are sincere, people feel it and will be inclined to do the same towards you. Hey more good friends in a new place is never a bad thing right?

The last point i have is subtle. Simple as that, all things no matter how good will not work if given an overdose.

Check this out.

" Hi, how are you. I love hearing about your interests. Those interests are the most wonderful and exciting hobbies i ever heard. Oh how i wish i knew about these previously. In fact your interests inspire me to embrace new things ...."

Duh.

Enjoy the new year and the new environment :)

Happy dating!

Stand out among the crowd

I am not pretty

Hi ladies !

How have you been?


Well recently i have received a number of emails from folks who said that they feel lonely and sad because they are not pretty!

NOW. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

True indeed. We know there are two kinds of beauty. Superficial and inner self. While we are pretty much born the way we are, inner self which is your character can be developed. This is the beauty that catches the eye of the beholder. All the emphasis on being pretty etc is pretty much Hollywood.

Ask yourself. Which beauty lasts you a lifetime? No prizes for getting this right :)

While it is true that guys do function on a visual basis, this is just the initial portion. Love connects beyond looks. Now you do not have to be pretty to catch someone attention, simply be presentable will do the trick. My friend's blog on fashion and make up tips may help you in that department.

Read a book on self improvement. Take time to cultivate your inner beauty. Appreciate your family more. Go do some charity work and make this world a better place. Watch as good natured guys start to take notice of your kind and good nature.

You will never be alone :)

I am not pretty